I NEVER expected to be a carer. I don’t suppose anyone does, especially as a young adult.

But before I’d turned 30 I was helping my grandmother to bathe and dress in the later stages of her terminal illness. I stayed over several nights a week and, if I’m honest, I often resented giving up my social life after work to sit with her all evening.

Now I look back and feel quite touched that I spent those final weeks with her, painful as they were.

The following year, we started to realise something was very wrong with my mum. Eventually she was diagnosed with dementia, in her mid-fifties. I have written before about the devastating impact of dementia; the horror of watching my vibrant, life-embracing mother fade away, and the utter waste of it all.

But here I write about what it means to be a carer; the relentless, exhausting reality - often gruelling, occasionally rewarding - for around 6.5 million people in the UK. By 2037, that number is expected to rise to nine million.

Carers Week is highlighting the vital role that ordinary people take on when the time comes for them to care for a loved one. Every day another 6,000 people, including children, become carers. It can happen to anyone, at any time; it can be instant - following a road accident or a stroke, for instance - or it can creep up, as is often the case with ageing parents. While many people have to give up work to be a carer, over three million juggle a job and caring responsibilities.

I did that for 13 years, helping my dad to care for my mum. Several evenings a week, after work, and at weekends I helped out to give him a break. It was important to me that he could still go out to watch a match, or take a walk. My siblings did what they could but, with young children, their time was limited.

As dementia tightened its grip, Mum lost her sight and speech, and became unable to feed, dress or wash herself. She would wail, scream and lash out, night and day, she fell over a lot and we’d find her wandering around the house in a state of confused terror. She couldn’t be left alone; it was like looking after a toddler with none of the joy.

By the time she was bedridden we had a good homecare package, but it seemed like she was turning into a tiny, frail bird in front of us, which was a huge emotional strain. When she died, my dad’s own health deteriorated and a few months later he passed away. I’m told that often happens with carers. I spent the final weeks of his life caring for him too.

Being a carer can be rewarding; we had some lovely, funny times with Mum and I’ll never forget her face breaking into a smile, even when she no longer recognised us. But I’m here to tell you that being a carer is also a brutal, lonely, exhausting, soul-destroying existence. It’s no surprise that over 60per cent of carers have had depression.

Thanks to organisations like Carers’ Resource, an invaluable support service for carers in the district, there is help out there. As well as practical support, the charity offers social activities giving carers much-needed respite.

Many people don’t see themselves as ‘carers’ because it’s just what they do. People like Verlie McCann, who cared for her husband for 30 years. "I wasn’t aware I was a ‘carer’, it was all part of ‘for better or worse’," she said.

I didn’t label myself a carer the three times in my adult life when I was one. I did it out of love. Most carers would say the same.

But unpaid carers save the state around £132 billion a year. And they are more than twice as likely to suffer from poor health as those without caring responsibilities. By building carer-friendly communities, a key factor of Carers Week, we can focus more on carers' own health and wellbeing.

You never know when it's going to happen to you.

* BEFORE wall-to-wall reality TV, Blind Date was what my generation of twenty-somethings watched while getting ready to go out on a Saturday night.

The format was simple; three guys or girls hidden behind a screen, with a potential suitor firing corny questions at them. Would she pick the likeable geek, the vacuous hunk or the slick city boy? Would he choose the girl-next-door, the shameless exhibitionist or the shoulder-padded high-flier?

I wasn’t a fan of Cilla Black but she was perfect for this show; the maternal voice of reason, with a twinkle in her eye.

Now Blind Date is returning to TV, with Paul O’Grady at the helm. It seems quaintly old-fashioned these days, but hopefully more fun than swiping left or right on a dating app.

* AM I alone in being sick of having political opinions rammed down my throat via social media?

There was a time when voting was something private, not really discussed in public, aside from a drunk dinner party or a political rally.

But over recent weeks Facebook has been awash with tedious tub-thumping. On election day there were numerous selfies taken outside polling stations, with people letting everyone know how they voted. All so painfully pious, and yet another tiresome case of over-sharing.